Romance is not so hard, but I am mostly sure they are some people who don't fancy it, most people have said a lot of good things about it when making love, and they want love making to start with a good romance.
Speaking of myself, I did not know what was a good romance untill I learnt and tried it, as no teacher or parents are going to teach you something like that.
I guess, in my first relationship, this was always the issue I had, and my girlfriend, always complaint about it, she told me many times that, I am not good in bed, because I can not just touched somebody to be in the mood, before anything else, each times she said a thing like this, my heart will beat because, i would know, she doesn't like what I am doing.
She makes it known to me that, atleast I should touched her for sometimes, before I would strike into the goalpost.
At first, in those few months she was making this complaints to me, I did not think about it, I thought it was just something I could escape and, maybe, after sometimes, she would stop talking about it, but it was never that way, I remember the complaint keep coming to the point that, it seems the relationship was not going anywhere again.
And, I didn't want that, I mean I was not ready for a break up just yet, you know as they said, "first time love is always gigantic and must follow along with his brother' fantastic" yeah.. truly speaking, I experienced the two brothers in my first relationship, and i was never thinking of leaving the both of them.
Then, a day came that I could not bear my girlfriend complaint anymore, I wanted to asked my friend to teach me, but he was out of town and I could not wait for him to come back after the weekend, which would be on monday and me, I was not ready to spent the weekend alone, I thought of her and I wanted her to be beside me throughout the weekend, I am not going to mentioned her name here.
So, what I did was to go on Google and I searched about, "How to romance a love one" a lot of results came up and, the search did some corrections for me and also input, "to be in the mood".
I smiled, because I knew I have gotten what I wanted, I was well seated on the chair and i brought a jotter close, when something is so important to me, that's what I do, I would not just read it, I will make sure, I have some writing materials beside me to put down some interesting parts, so that I will never forget it again.
The search and the reading took me a whole lot of times, but it was for the best and even till today, I am still happy that I did the search that day.
Then, my girlfriend came on that friday, what always happens was that, in the times she arrived, she would be happy, but if we are to play a match or matches as it does happen, she always feels sad, and would say, "I am not a good player, but it was surprising to her, when I was able to keep my midfield very well and also strike to score a nice goal.
I defeat the opponent and she called it a nice team performance, I was happy from that day henceforth, because my search on Google was not in vain, what I learnt save me from defeat.
That was when my girlfriend stopped saying I was not good in bed, I guessed, from that moment, we started enjoying good sex and for me, as a man, it boosted my morale and I began to feels, I was not letting my love down at anything.
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