we really do feel like we're starting to lose our identity

That makes perfect sense. I was stuck somewhere I had no choice over too and then the choice I made to get out of where I was wasn't much better. It took another six months before I could do anything about it.
Having a good sense of humor definitely helps. Keep laughing my friend it really does help pass the time and relieve the symptoms of stress. you have a talent for comedic writing which is very enjoyable to read too.

Big hugs to you all 🤗💚🤗